"Grow in Virtue" is a rule of life that leads to growth in happiness through better habits in all areas of life. To grow in virtue is to exercise the virtues with better habits every day. The more we exercise them, the more we grow in virtue. The more we grow in virtue, the more we grow in happiness. Here's how:
Commit to exercising a habit for at least one sub-virtue of each cardinal virtue every day. When exercising a habit for a sub-virtue, you also are exercising the cardinal virtue associated with it.
As an example and recommendation, you might start by exercising a habit for each of these sub-virtues (with links for examples of habits):
Religion (its cardinal virtue is Justice)
Restraint (its cardinal virtue is Temperance)
Resilience (its cardinal virtue is Fortitude)
Teachability (its cardinal virtue of Prudence)
The four cardinal virtues of Prudence, Justice, Fortitude, and Temperance are listed below with their bulleted sub-virtues, an explanation, and a link for some of the sub-virtues to provide examples of habits:
The cardinal virtue of Prudence (practical wisdom) and its following sub-virtues deal with our thoughts:
Memory: Recollecting existing knowledge from facts or experience.
Judgment: Knowing what principles to use in a particular situation.
Teachability: Learning from others.
Creativity: Gaining new information by discovery. (e.g. Brainstorming, experimenting)
Reasoning: Moving logically from one step to the next until reaching a conclusion.
Alertness: Having situational awareness. (e.g. Pay attention to surroundings & experiences)
Foresight: Setting the right goals and updating them as necessary.
Preparedness: Anticipating obstacles & deciding what to do to avoid them.
The cardinal virtue of Justice and its following sub-virtues deal with our actions:
Distributive Justice: Fair distribution of shared benefits & burdens from a community to individuals.
Commutative Justice: Being fair in commercial transactions from one person to another.
Honesty: Telling the truth, or at least not lying.
Gratitude: The appropriate response when someone does good things to or for us.
Correction: The appropriate response when someone does bad things.
Friendliness: How to treat others with whom you interact. (e.g. Show love or mercy to others)
Generosity: Being willing to share what you have.
Compliance: Obeying those in authority over you.
Respect: Honoring the dignity of others.
Patriotism: Doing your duty to your parents and country.
Religion: Doing one's duty to God.
Reasonableness: Going beyond laws, rules, or customs to be just toward others.
The cardinal virtue of Fortitude (courage) and its following sub-virtues deal with our feelings of fear:
Perseverance: Enduring physical challenges.
Resilience: Enduring mental challenges.
Magnanimity: Greatness of soul or spirit in taking on big challenges.
Munificence: Spending large sums of your own money to achieve a great good. (e.g. Philanthropy)
The cardinal virtue of Temperance (self-discipline) and its following sub-virtues deal with our feelings of desire:
Restraint: Refraining from the desire to do something unworthy.
Humility: Managing the desire to do great things.
Diligence: Intense study driven by a love of knowing.
Gentlefirmness: Directing your anger toward making things right.
Forgiveness: Moderating your response to what causes anger. (e.g. Forgiving others)
Orderliness: Prioritizing and completing work. (e.g. Time-blocking)
Eutrapelia: Incorporating effective play/leisure time.
Gravitas: Concerns fidgeting, slouching, or other actions that distract others.
Suppleness: The impact of your movement on your physical health.
Modesty: Dressing suitably to prevent distracting others.
Abstemiousness: Eating & drinking to optimize physical health.
Sobriety: Drinking alcohol in moderation, not in excess.
Chasteness: Moderating the sexual appetite to your state in life. (e.g. Sex within marriage)
Thrift: Being satisfied with the quantity of things you have. (e.g. Budgeting finances)
Contentment: Being satisfied with the quality of things you have. (e.g. Simple living)
Exercise better habits with these best practices:
Download the Habit Tracker to document and track your habits.
Stack your habits to exercise a new habit before, during, or after an existing habit.
Exercise habits with others who are doing them too.
Plan habits in your daily schedule.
Start habits with a 2-minute version, then improve them gradually with a fuller version.
Share your experience with others as accountability for you and encouragement for others to grow in virtue and happiness:
Share your daily experience on a Daily Virtue Renewal (DVR) call or with someone you trust.
Share your weekly experience during a weekly group meeting.
Share your overall experience with a spiritual director, professional counselor, and/or personal coach for help.